There’s a special kind of person who can post to Instagram daily, reply to your meme in 30 seconds, and yet somehow cannot confirm drinks plans to save their fucking life. These people exist in every friend group, every city, every group chat… and while they can be infuriating, they’re also… very predictable.

So I thought we’d dissect the species of people who never confirm plans today. Consider this both a roast and a survival guide. Grab a glass of wine, and let’s dive in..

The 8 Types

The Poet: “Let’s see how the week shakes out.” (It won’t. Weeks don’t shake; they blur.)

Solution - Give two options + a clock.

“Dante at 7:30 or Gemma at 8? Pick by tomorrow 3pm.”

Why it works: Decisions are easy when they’re boxed in.

The Overbooked Optimist: Triple-RSVPs and trusts in teleportation.

Solution - Guard the night, kindly.

“I grabbed 7:15 under my name. If I don’t get a yes by noon, I’ll release it—no stress.”

Why it works: Protecting your time doesn’t punish them; it preserves you.

The One who shines in the GC: Fireworks in the group chat, crickets IRL.

Solution - When the group chat turns into a committee, go micro.

“You, me, Sam. Thursday. Same place. Let me know by 5pm.”

Why it works: Smaller circles = actual plans.

The Forecast Friend: Won’t commit till the radar flirts back.

Solution -  Weather drama? Pre-bake the backup.

“If it pours, we pivot to The Wren—same time.”

Why it works: You can’t let the weather drive your decisions. Solidify your rain plan when you make the plan. Clouds don’t get a vote.

The Polite Flake: “100% in!” at breakfast, apologies by dusk.

Solution -Make honesty feel lighter than guilt.

“If this week is heavy, let’s do forty-five minutes or just move it to next Wednesday. It’s no worries!”

Why it works: If a friend keeps breaking your heart by trying to please it, make honesty easy before the flake is born. Relief is a path to truth; truth is how plans survive.

The Calendar-What-Now: Days melt like ice; reminders are a love language.

Solution -  Carry the weight.

Pick the time. Pick the place. Send the invite.

Why it works: Remove the friction like a stone from a shoe. It’s not coddling; it’s care.

The Plus-One Parade: Brings a crowd to your 1:1 confessional.

Solution - Bless the desire for a crowd while expressing your needs.

“Tonight, I need it to be just us—I’ve been craving some 1 on 1 time. We’ll get everyone together next week, promise.”

Why it works: Boundaries = better hangs.

The Last-Minute Hero:  A “Tonight??” text an hour before, betting on the fact you have no prior plans.

Solution - Say yes, but shape the story.

“Tonight works—if you’re okay with a quick drink near me”

Why it works: Last-minute energy can feel reckless, but sometimes it’s just hunger for connection. By setting terms, you meet the spontaneity without letting it steamroll you. A little structure turns chaos into charm, and keeps the door open without leaving you drained.

Most of us aren’t bad at caring—we’re just clumsy at committing. We want connection to feel cinematic, when really it’s a craft. Plans don’t fall apart because people are too busy. They fall apart because we’ve forgotten how to commit. We live in the age of the “soft yes,” the “let’s see,” the “maybe, babe.” Everyone wants optionality. No one wants accountability. And that’s why connection slips through the cracks.

It doesn’t happen in half-promises. It happens when people actually show up.

At FROM, we’ve built a home for that. A space where “we should hang out” doesn’t die in the group chat. Where making plans isn’t another chore, but the beginning of something real.

No noise. No flaking. Just a drink, a time, a place.

And when you show up? We make it worth it. Points in your pocket, first rounds on us, and nights that turn into stories. Remember, connection shouldn’t feel like work—it should feel like a reward. Until next time x